What if my Child is a Bully?

​1. Don't panic. Find out exactly what your child has been doing.

2. Talk to your child, calmly, about why he/she is doing what he/she is doing. Do not accuse or threaten your child. He/she may be experiencing social or emotional issues that are difficult to handle.

3. Explain to your child that bullying behavior is unacceptable. Talk about how bullying affects others.

4. Discuss alternatives to aggressive behavior with your child. Role-play ways to handle situations without bullying. Teach your child to ask for help and praise your child when he/she tries these new behaviors.

5. Set clear consequences for inappropriate behaviors such as losing computer time.

6. Talk to your child's teacher. This sends a clear message to your child that you will not tolerate bullying behavior.

7. Talk to the counselor, psychologist, or social worker at your child's school. If you want more support, talk to your health care provider about getting counseling for your child to remediated any possible long-term effects of bullying behavior.


National Mental Health and Education Center, National Association of School Psychologists, Bullies and Victims: Information for Parents